Monday, November 28, 2011

The Pleasures of the Table

The French writer Colette, a renowned epicure, once said that sitting down at table was like “un rendez-vous d’amour et d’amitié” – a rendez-vous with love and friendship.

I have always believed that when all is said and done, the most passionate and enduring relationship in the life of a French man or woman is his/her love affair with food.

For me, cooking for those I love is a natural expression of that love. “How do I love thee?” Let me cook for you and you will see, smell and taste how much I love thee.

There was a time when I hosted elaborate dinner parties on a regular basis. I regret to say that over the years my dinner parties have dwindled to a precious few in number as fewer and fewer of my friends can find the time or the inclination to sit down at table for “un rendez-vous d’amour et d’amitié.”

We get together at restaurants for dinner from time to time, but it’s just not the same.

It’s not just the lack of time which has cast a pall over the pleasures of the table.

While the best of French cuisine can be successfully recreated in world-class American restaurants across the country, what is harder to recreate is the love affair with food that gets lost in translation.

Sadly, the American relationship with food has become increasingly dysfunctional. It has, in fact, become a love-hate affair.

“If you eat this, you’ll live to be 100. Who cares what it tastes like??!!”

“If you eat that, your arteries will clog up and you’ll die.”

“If you eat this, you’ll never get cancer.”

“If you eat that, you’ll get fat.”

The mantra of the American diner has become, “If it tastes good it must be bad; if it tastes bad it must be good.”

Now, I ask you, is that a recipe for romance?

This past Thursday, as happens once a year every year, women across America spent hours in their kitchens preparing to show those they love just how much they love them.

At Thanksgiving Dinners all across the country, families and cherished friends sat down together and each in turn, from the youngest to the oldest, was asked the traditional question on this national day of gratitude, “What are you thankful for?”

On Thanksgiving day every year Americans come the closest to sharing the French love affair with food, and for that my French-American soul is truly thankful.

All table settings courtesy of Hermès. 

Friday, November 11, 2011

Secrets of the Little Black Dress

Well, Ladies, ready or not, here they come……………THE HOLIDAYS!!! So, before the madness sets in, no time like the present to take a quick inventory of your closet and see whether or not it can get you through the holiday party season with style.

In fact, now is the time to hunt up that little black dress that’s been waiting oh-so-patiently in the back of your closet for you to remember just how much you love her. And why do we love our LBD? Because no matter our size or our age, she always makes us look perfect.

I know, I know, I can hear your groans of boredom (“the LBD…yadda, yadda, yadda, excuse me while I stifle a yawn!!), but bear with me and I will reveal some of the secrets of the LBD that might just make you re-think this classic essential of the well-dressed woman’s wardrobe.

No discussion of the Little Black Dress can begin without at least a quick genuflection in the direction of the tiny Frenchwoman who invented it, Gabrielle Chanel (1883-1971). Known to the world as Coco, those who worked for her during her lifetime and who work for the house of Chanel to this day refer to her in hushed tones as “Mademoiselle,” in case she is listening. She started by designing hats, but soon launched her own clothing line inspired by the clothes worn by her wealthy lovers, her first financial backers. She adored the simple, clean lines and expert tailoring of men’s garments, and had begun to adapt them to suit her slight frame. As a result, she virtually invented the concept of casual chic, for which every woman owes her a debt of gratitude. And the Little Black Dress would be the final metamorphosis of the black school dress uniform and white collar that she had worn as a student in a Catholic orphanage.

“So, what makes the LBD so special?” you ask, and I am so glad you did. The LBD is so special because, quite simply, she goes everywhere and does everything. She is not just a party animal.

On Friday morning, she goes off to the office in a tweed jacket, cranberry scarf and black d’Orsay pumps; on Saturday afternoon she goes to check out the latest Dada retrospective at the Musée Beaubourg in a denim jacket and red kitten heels; on Saturday evening she meets her very special someone for a romantic dinner at Le Train Bleu in a creamy lace bolero and python pumps; and on Sunday afternoon she takes the train from Paris to the country for lunch with tante Germaine in a cashmere cardigan with antique buttons and grey suede T-straps.

“O.K. You’ve convinced me. So, how do I choose the perfect LBD for me?” you ask, and I am so glad you did. Beyond the fact that the classic LBD is sleeveless, unembellished and beautifully tailored, the secrets to choosing your perfect LBD can be broken down into the following three categories.

The Sheath v. the Shift

The sheath dress is designed to show off the curves of a well-proportioned (bust to hip ratio) small-waisted woman by lightly skimming over those curves. It’s your body proportion that counts here, Ladies, not your size.

It should never be too tight. As my Mother always says, "a dress should be tight enough to show you are a woman but loose enough to show you are a lady."

If you are larger on top (bust) or on the bottom (hip and/or thigh area), choose a sheath with an A-line skirt which floats out over the hip and thigh area, thereby balancing a larger top or camouflaging a larger bottom.

In general, the A-line is the most flattering and forgiving skirt shape a woman can wear, and it looks good on everyone.

The shift dress hangs perfectly straight from the shoulders and works well for women who do not have a well-defined waist or who want to conceal a tummy. The shift dress can also have a slight A-line flair to the skirt.

Neckline and Shoulders
While a small, rounded neckline is the classic LBD neckline, there are many variations from which to choose.

If you have narrow shoulders, a Bateau, or boat, neck, as in the sheath above, is more flattering and the shoulder seam should fall at or slightly beyond your natural shoulder line, thereby creating the illusion of wider shoulders. A small, capped sleeve, as in the shift on the left, can also visually widen narrow shoulders.

If you have wider shoulders and well-toned arms (Lucky You!) show them off with a shoulder seam that stops at the edge of your collar bone, inside your natural shoulder line, or go for a halter neck.

If your face and/or body are round, a square neckline adds a touch of angled geometry to your silhouette and is very elegant. By the same token, a rounded neckline softens an angular face and/or body.

If you are large busted, a V-neck will help to break up the bust line by showing more skin and opening up the décolletage area. The amount of cleavage you show is up to you!

Hem Line
Mademoiselle lived to see the miniskirt of the 60’s era and never missed an opportunity to voice her displeasure at the display of what she considered the least attractive part of a woman’s body – her knees. Mercifully, she did not live to see the return of the miniskirt. While I do not share Mademoiselle’s particular phobia, I do think that the perfect hem length for the LBD is mid-knee or one inch below the knee.

As to the perfect way to accessorize the LBD? I prefer the classic, clean lines of a crystal flute filled with Veuve Clicquot champagne.

And now you know everything you need to know about choosing the perfect Little Black Dress. Well, not quite. There is still one last secret to be revealed.

Since it is as much a concept as it is a dress, the Little Black Dress need not, in fact, be black at all. “Quelle horreur! What is she saying??” you are thinking. When is a Little Black Dress not a Little Black Dress? When it fits like a Little Black Dress but is in a neutral color that might just be more flattering to your skin tone.

While black is definitely slimming, it is not a color which looks good on everyone and can be harsh, particularly as we age. So, why not choose a deep-hued neutral tone that might better complement your coloring – chocolate brown, warm navy or slate grey??!! I own four LBDs – two are black, one is navy blue and the other is a deep hunter green, which does wonders for my red hair and ivory skin.

Or…..what about a fabulous jewel-toned amethyst or emerald green for that special holiday party?

And now you do know everything you need to know about choosing the perfect Little Black Dress, although let’s just keep that last secret between us in case Mademoiselle is listening. No doubt she is having enough trouble coping with the return of ladies’ knees.