Every generation thinks it invented sex. I know we “free love” lovin’ Baby Boomers certainly thought we did or, at the very least, that we perfected it. Deep down we knew that our parents must have done it at least once (“Wait….how many brothers and sisters do I have? Yuck!!), but apparently all of that stopped in 1962 when this man ruined America’s love live for the next 30 years.
Don’t take my word for it. Here’s what Sex Therapist Dr. Ruth Westheimer, a frequent guest on The Tonight Show, said about its host, the inimitable Johnny Carson.
”Johnny Carson has done more to ruin America’s love life than anyone else in the country. On any given night that he’s hosting The Tonight Show, there are 10 times more couples watching his monologue than making love. By the time they’ve exhausted themselves laughing at his jokes, they don’t have the energy for sex and simply turn out the light and go to sleep….”
The whole “Johnny Carson ruined my love life” thing became a sort of party joke for married couples for years. Whether or not there was any truth to it, I don’t know, although I have my suspicions, but, when my husband and I got married 40 years ago, we decided we would NOT have a TV in our bedroom. We still don’t and we still do. I’ll let you figure that one out.
It turns out that we Baby Boomers may not have invented it or perfected, but we’re still enjoying it more and having it more frequently than our children and grandchildren, according to recent studies.
In Romance After 60, an article that discusses and debunks myths about the sex lives of seniors, Dr. John Morley, Director of the Division of Geriatric Medicine, St. Louis University, drops this little tidbit on our plates:
"You must realize that in the U.S. the biggest use of prostitutes is on the day Social Security checks come out."
Hmm. That’s food for thought!
I’m not sure how they did that study (I don’t think I want to know.) and it’s certainly not the most romantic quote I could have chosen, but it clearly makes the case that the sex drive can survive and even thrive as long as we do.
A friend of mine, a retired nurse, was tending a comatose male patient who suddenly woke up while she was leaning over him. He was staring down the top of her uniform. You’ll be happy to know he made a complete recovery.
So what the heck is wrong with our kids and grandkids? Why am I reading that they are having less sex and enjoying it less when they should be having the time of their lives, sexually speaking?
Does this look familiar? How many times have you seen a young couple having dinner and connecting only with their I-phones? Shouldn’t somebody tell them that foreplay begins with dinner, provocative conversation and long, lingering looks over a glass of wine?
And they’re not even connecting in the bedroom. There’s this from Wordlesstech.
"Couples are spending more time looking at their laptops in the bedroom than they do looking at each other. According to the Ikea-funded study people have become much too attached to their laptops, to the point that they’ve started taking them to bed when they should be cuddling.
The study of two million Britons, including 200,000 Londoners, found couples in London were the worst offenders in the country, with 22 per cent of people admitting using a computer in bed."
I wonder what Dr. Ruth Westheimer, now 88 years old and still a practicing sex therapist, has to say about the effects of the digital age on our young people’s sex lives.
I think it’s time for Dr. Ruth to let Johnny Carson off the hook. At least in the old days couples in bed laughed together over his jokes, even the ones that didn’t work, which were often funnier than the ones that did. They were connecting and sharing those moments in an intimate setting and, somehow, they found the energy to create the next generation before they turned out the lights and went to sleep.