Friday, January 13, 2017

Another Year, Another List

No sooner has that big Waterford crystal ball dropped and the last glass of champagne been drunk, than the urge to take stock of our lives becomes overwhelming.  We start to make lists. 

Even if, like me, you don’t feel compelled to plan your life out for the next year, because you know how unpredictable life can be, everyone else seems to feel that urge.  Newspapers, magazines and blogs are full of lists of resolutions from the great, the near-great and the “who is that?” – “This year I’m going to do this, and I’m NOT going to do that.” 

Women’s magazines and blogs seem to be especially fond of publishing these lists and, with the population aging, we have the current craze in list making, what I call the “I’m Too Old To …” lists by and about women hitting milestones such as 40, 50 and 60.  There’s a numbing sameness about all these articles. 


A survey will be published that says women shouldn’t wear jeans after 40 that sets off a torrent of outraged comments from women over 40 – “How dare you say that?  Who died and made you Anna Wintour?”  The truth is some women look great in skinny jeans over 60 and beyond, while others never did look good in them even when they were young. 


A writer turning 50 makes an “I’m Too Old To” list that includes “I’m too old to care what other people think about me.”  How many times have I heard/read that little gem, which is always said or written with the same defiant conviction that this is somehow a groundbreaking statement?  It’s not!  Besides, I don’t believe her.  People who truly don’t give a damn about what others think of them don’t announce it.  Why bother? 


A woman over 60 says “I’m Too Old To” care about sex any more.  Do I even need to comment on this one?  O.K., I will.  There are lots of libido killers out there, Ladies.  Being over 60 isn’t one of them.  Trust me. 

And so, I’m going to break my long-standing tradition of not making a New Year’s Resolution and make one right now. 


I hereby resolve that I am too old to read any more “I’m Too Old To” lists. 



  1. "Numbing sameness" says it all. Lately I just turnover the page whenever I see a heading "To Do Lists for 2017"; "Resolutions for 2017"; etc. Makes for very brief reading in some magazines.

    1. In most cases, Eleni, a very brief reading is all they deserve. Your time is better spent actually living life to the fullest and most beautiful every moment of the day. Life is a banquet. Enjoy every bite.

      Thanks for stopping by and Happy New Year.

      Cheers, M-T

  2. This Comment was sent to me by my friend, Anna, a very stylish "femme d'un certain âge."

    "I started wearing jeans again in my 50's and still do. Probably too old for some things, but as long as we can do it, whatever it is we are too old for, I am all for it.
    See you soon.
    Xoxo, Anna"

    1. I never wore jeans in my youth. Mme Mère was very much against them. She thought they looked sloppy, and, truthfully, in those days, they did.

      I started wearing them in my 40's, and every time I visited her wearing them, she always passed a remark, such as, "Don't you have any nice trousers any more?" I stopped wearing them on my visits.

      I still love my skinny jeans. They are an absolute wardrobe staple for me and many other women over 60 who still look great in them.

      See you soon, dear friend,

      xoxo, M-T

    2. Hi Marie-Thérèse,

      I have a magazine background and can report, magazines like to come up with lists, "the top 10, this and that" because those issues are big sellers. The lists are often just an editor's opinion, aren't they? Sometimes one magazine contradicts another.

      All of our opinions is just as valid.

      My mother hates leggings the way yours hated jeans! But I wear them all fall and winter, alone and under dresses. I buy the ones that are opaque (and black). Now that I wear them, I can't imagaine feeling cold and uncomfortable, and I think you can dress them up or down easily. So I do!

      Happy 2017, M-T!


    3. Hi Debra,

      What a great perspective you have on all this as someone who knows the magazine business from the inside. I have always wondered who comes up with these "lists," and now I know. Thanks for the insider info.

      I love wearing my leggings, and I wear them exactly the way you do. We may be several decades apart in age, but we always seem to be on the same page when it comes to style. It only goes to show that style transcends age. Our mothers would have loved each other.

      Happy 2017, Debra. Perhaps this will be the year we meet.

      Cheers, M-T

    4. Oh, meeting will be great fun! I would love it!

    5. Let's see what we can arrange. I'll be in touch.

  3. Dear M-T,
    I don't know what contributes to this talk of age, it's a paradox since we are living longer. With lives going into 90 and beyond, middle-age should be 50-60. That's when we come into our own; flexible, not caring what others say or think and living by our own set of rules. I find those lists rigid. They may be written by a younger crowd who have an old mind-set and are stuck in their ways.

    1. Dear Linda,

      I am as confused as you about this whole ageism thing. I wouldn't mind having my 20-year-old face and body back, but I'm hanging on to my 60+year-old mind. There's just no substitute for life lessons learned, stored and profited from.

      You make a great point when you say that old mindsets and being stuck in one's ways are not relegated to the older generation.

      Always enjoy when you stop by, my friend.

      Cheers and Happy New Year, M-T

  4. My dear friend, Marianne, who has been beautifully dressed since the day I met her more than 4 decades ago, sent me this comment:

    "Love it, M-T! What you say is so true! I love wearing "youthful" clothes that make me feel sexy."

    1. Marianne, you have always had a sexy, youthful vibe about you, and your wardrobe reflects that. I'm sure Steve would agree with me.

      Love, M-T

  5. Good post. I so agree. I don't do either pro-age or anti-age!!!

    1. I'm with you on that, Josephine. I've always done my best to look my best at every age, which is what I always stressed with clients.

      Happy New Year, M-T

  6. Dearest Marie-Thérèse,
    Haha, spot on with that woman that you don't believe. That's exactly my thought; why announce it?!
    Just LIVE your life; period.
    Well, I never make any New Year resolution but right now I'm pushing myself for finishing my 18 Fleur de Lys in two stretches of 12 and 6. Crocheting them for our veranda. A Mega task and no, one is not too old over 60 for doing that! But nevertheless I will be very happy when I can sit back and look at them 'hanging' with a glass of Moscato d'Asti...
    My latest blog is not showing up on the side line for whatever weird reason...?!
    The weather has been 80°F for 2 days in a row so I had the door of our veranda open while crocheting like a robot at full speed...
    Sending you hugs,

    PS and yes, I'm very much a Francophile!

    1. Dearest Mariette,

      Your comments are always so wonderful. I don't know how you find the time to write as prolifically as you do and then find time to write such thoughtful comments on every one of my posts. You really are amazing. I wish I had your energy.

      You really "got" my "why announce it?" take. I knew you would.

      Your weather is positively summery. We have been yo-yoing back and forth between very cold and rather warm, at least for the time of year. In fact, we are expecting weather in the 60s for the next few days. How strange.

      I had no idea that, among all of your talents, you did crochet. I love crocheted articles and am absolutely hopeless with a needle and thread. You really are multi-talented.

      Grosses bises, ma chère amie, et bonne année,



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