|Courtesy of Jane Heller Confessions of a She-Fan|
Increasingly, we may feel we are fading into the background of our own lives. Is it inevitable or is it a choice?
We hear a lot of talk about “the war on women,” but in modern western societies, we have choices our mothers and grandmothers only dared dream of. Some of you are more comfortable flying under the radar, and I hear you. You’re talking to a woman who was painfully shy well into her late twenties.
|Mme Mère (a/k/a "Isabelle") 1916-2013|
In my forties I finally found my voice, and in my fifties I found my inner diva. It’s never too late...
The choices we make to remain visible and viable must be done wisely and with great care; the path to aging with style and grace is strewn with pitfalls. Here are just a few examples.
|From WSJ Article "How Boho Will You Go?"|
|The Gorgeous Peggy Lipton from the 1960s Crime Drama "Mod Squad"|
Speaking of hats………….I adore them and wear them. It’s a great way to get noticed, but, you don’t want to get noticed for the wrong reason. Go for a chic chapeau and avoid outrageous…………..
|Camilla Duchess of Cornwall|
The message from the pop media today is that women of all ages need to be in-your-face aggressive to get people to pay attention to you. Being politely assertive is just sooooo last century. Just look at the TV commercials.
This one is aimed at younger women, and every fiber of my being recoils at this young woman’s behavior.
If I were that Bank Officer, I would say, “I’ll tell you what I will do for you……..niente, nada, nothing! Now get your feet off my desk and get out of my office. I don’t do business with rude, arrogant brats!!”
First, we see this woman freaking out (they call it “letting yourself gooooooooooo”) in her car and singing along to a horrible song on the radio in a loud, off-key voice. If I were a passenger in that car, I’d say, “Drop me off at the next corner. I’ll take a taxi, thank you.”
Then, we see her at the movies annoying everyone around her with her hyena laugh.
“Be the one with the crazy laugh,” they advise us. Oh really? Do you want to “be the one” that forces the hostess of a party to take everyone aside before you get there and say, “Whatever you do, DON’T say anything funny!”
I think NOT. We’ve got much better choices at our disposal.
To read Jennifer Connolly's companion piece “The Vanishing Older Woman (Part 1)” click here, for Part 2 click here.